Whether you’re grieving the passing of a loved one or supporting a friend, attending a funeral can be difficult. For such a sensitive time, there are certain rules of etiquette that ensure you respect the feelings of the bereaved and treat the occasion with the gravity and empathy it calls for. The compassionate staff at Melvin T. Strider Colonial Funeral Home shares some helpful insight on what to do and what actions to avoid in this situation.

Do:

Show your support.

If you’re there for a friend, it’s normal to feel awkward, or helpless in your ability to make a loved one feel better. Unfortunately, there is nothing anyone can say at this time to resolve their feelings; the best you can do is show up, lend support, and pay your respects. Follow their cues and let them speak or be silent depending on what they need. 

Express your sympathy.

While being present for the funeral will speak volumes in and of itself, sending a gift to the grieving family to express your sympathy is also an appreciated gesture. Flowers or a card are typically the most appropriate gift items for this event unless otherwise stated. Sometimes the family will request a donation to a particular organization.

Don’t:

Arrive Late

Showing up to a funeral later than the requested time is not only disrespectful, but it also interrupts the service. Make a concerted effort to plan ahead and arrive about ten minutes early. Getting there in advance also allows you to comfort other grieving friends and family members who need support and love on this challenging day.

Take Out Your Phone

Regardless of whether your work is trying to contact you, or there’s an incoming message from a friend, taking out your phone for any reason is one of the most disrespectful things you can do at a funeral. It shows that your mind and attention are elsewhere and that the service or ceremony is not your priority. Turn the device off, or keep it on mute, until the event ends.

If you need to make funeral arrangements for a loved one, turn to Melvin T. Strider Colonial Funeral Home in Ranson, WV. Since 1889, their compassionate team has helped bereaved family members plan the burial or cremation of a deceased loved one. To speak with a funeral director today about your needs, call (304) 725-7068, or visit their website for more information about who they are and how they can assist.