Dealing with death extends far beyond the conclusion of a memorial service or celebration of life. If you’re in close contact with someone who is grieving, you want to lend your sympathy and support. However, doing so can often feel awkward and overwhelming. Fortunately, the team at Arndt Funeral Home LLC explains that there are rules of etiquette you can follow to make the process easier. To help you out, the compassionate funeral home offers the following do’s and don’ts when speaking with those in mourning. 

Do:

Listen First.

No two people process death or grief in the same way. As a bystander of someone dealing with heavy emotions, it’s your job to listen rather than to assume they are looking for your input. In many cases, a supportive listener or steady shoulder is more beneficial to someone in mourning, as it allows them the space to share their feelings or simply manage their pain with silent support. Only offer advice if it is warranted or asked for specifically. 

Validate Emotion.

A person who has lost someone dear to their heart is likely to experience a range of emotions, even in a single day. Whether they are depressed, angry, confused, or are in denial, it’s important to validate their feelings, so they know they are being seen and heard. Remember that it is not your place to judge where the person is at in their healing process — respect their current mood and allow it to shift and sometimes regress, as this is vital to the recovery process. 

Don’t:

Avoid the Topic.

While it’s impolite to assume a friend, family member, or peer wants to dive into a conversation about death, it’s also ill-advised to ignore the topic altogether. Once you’ve left the funeral home, offer your condolences upfront and express that you will support them in any way they need. Make them aware that if they’d like to talk, you’re ready to listen. Staying silent and waiting for them to say the first word might make the mourning person uncomfortable and assume you don’t care or want to discuss their feelings. 

Compare Your Experience. 

If you’ve gone through the passing of a loved one, resist the urge to share or compare your experience with someone currently mourning. No two situations are alike, and doing so takes away the attention they may require. Remember to keep the focus on their feelings and current state of being rather than extending or projecting your own recollection. 

When you lose someone you love, your world is turned upside down. Finding the right funeral home to help you sort through the logistics and details allows you to heal in peace. Residents of Rochester, NY, turn to the compassionate staff at Arndt Funeral Home LLC for advice and guidance throughout the process. Serving the community since 1975, they provide a comforting environment and help facilitate a personalized and meaningful service. Reach out to the funeral home online or call at (585) 225-6350 to schedule an appointment today.