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Many parents wonder if it’s appropriate to bring their children to a funeral service. In truth, there is no right or wrong decision—your choice will depend on the circumstances of the situation, how close your child was to the deceased, and how your young one feels about the experience. If a child is old enough to understand what is happening and voices an interest in attending, it should be fine for them to attend. As a funeral planning provider in Cincinnati, OH, Bolton & Lunsford Funeral Homes offers insight on how you can prepare your child for the event.

Talk to Your Child

Before the service, have a one-on-one conversation with your child about the death and what to expect during the funeral. Bereavement specialists recommend speaking truthfully by explaining that the deceased has passed away and that the funeral service is a way to honor their memory.

Next, discuss the process of the funeral itself by addressing the mood, as well as any viewing and burial practices. While children can have a variety of emotional reactions to the news, remind them that their feelings are valid and how it’s perfectly normal to cry, even during the service.

Consider Involvement

funeral serviceSimple actions, such as lighting a candle or placing flowers can allow young attendees a chance to say goodbye and feel engaged with the grieving process. If you and your family are making the arrangements, you may also ask your funeral director if there are opportunities for your child to participate in an appropriate fashion.  

Recruit Support

If your child is on the younger side, there is a chance of them becoming restless or uneasy during the actual service. To avoid distraction from the event, it can be helpful to have a designated adult who is willing to take your child outside until they feel they can return.

After the Funeral  

If your child is facing difficulty with the grieving process after the funeral service occurs, there are many ways to help. For example, you can remind your little one that they can visit with the deceased at their burial site or by viewing a cremation urn. Bereavement counseling is also an incredible resource for any person who is having trouble sorting through the many emotions death can bring up.

Although your child will look to you to answer questions and provide emotional support when a loved one departs, you don’t have to go through the process alone. For example, the professionals at Bolton & Lunsford Funeral Homes can address any concerns you have about an upcoming funeral service, how your child can be involved, or who to speak with about grief. Visit the website to learn more about the funeral planning process in Cincinnati, OH, or to speak with a funeral director about your needs, call (513) 661-4059.

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