Wagoner, Oklahoma
2980 US-69
Wagoner, OK 74467
(918) 485-9525
Shipman Funeral Homes located in Wagoner, Oklahoma prides itself on generations of experience. Our services are available to families in North Texas, Western Arkansas, and Eastern Oklahoma. Our professional staff has a reputation for being trustworthy, and compassionate while meeting your funeral service needs.

How to Approach Funeral Planning Discussions With Your Parents September 28, 2017

How to Approach Funeral Planning Discussions With Your Parents, Wagoner, Oklahoma

While it’s not easy, speaking to your parents about funeral planning is one of the most beneficial things you can do for them. Being proactive will ensure their final wishes are fulfilled and minimize the financial burden many families face when a loved one passes away.

There are many different ways to begin the discussion, but it’s important to note that there is no “right” method. Since everyone is different, carefully consider the following advice while keeping your parents’ unique personalities in mind.

Start By Sharing Your Own Funeral Planning Ideas

funeral planningWhen you frame the issue from your own perspective and in relatively general terms, you’ll provide a conversational buffer and a sense of empathy. This is much less confrontational and grants your parents the opportunity to help their child once again.

Inquire About Traditions

If you didn’t attend them or were too young to remember, ask your parents about previous family funerals. They may want to carry on certain traditions incorporated into past ceremonies or services.

Consult the Funeral Home

If you’re still struggling to discuss funeral planning with your parents, contact your local funeral home and ask to speak with a director. They’re more than familiar with the difficulties of the process and can help you determine the best way to move the conversation forward.

However you end up broaching the subject, it helps to be attentive and mindful of your parents’ reactions. If there’s notable strain on the conversation, be patient with them as well as with yourself. Whenever possible, emphasize your intention to respect their wishes and assure them you're there to help.


For those in Eastern Oklahoma, Western Arkansas, or North Texas searching for a funeral home that provides the utmost respect and attention, call Shipman Funeral Home & Crematory today at (918) 485-9525. Based in Wagoner, OK, they provide funeral planning, memorial services, cremations, and grief support. You can learn more about these services on their website. If you’re closer to Muskogee, contact their second location, Muskogee Cremation Services at (918) 682-1700.

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