As difficult as getting a divorce might be for you and your spouse, telling your children is easily the hardest part. As trying as this conversation can be, how you approach the topic can give your children the security they need to get through the transition. To make this troubling discussion as smooth as possible, experienced divorce lawyers recommend planning in advance, choosing a comfortable setting, and listening closely to your child’s concerns.

4 Tips for Talking to Your Child About Divorce

1. Decide on a Script

Work with your spouse to decide what you’re going to say and how you want to frame the news. You’ll likely be peppered with questions, so prepare as many answers as you can. The more confident you appear, the more secure your children will feel.

2. Do It Together

Although your marriage will soon be ending, you will both continue to be the child’s parents, so present a unified front. Also, keep any disagreements behind closed doors or at your lawyer’s office, and avoid trying to assign blame.

3. Focus on What Will Remain the Same

Change is frightening, and your child will want to know how much disruption they can expect. Remind them of the things in their life that will remain the same, like their friends or school, instead of focusing on what will inevitably change.

4. Remind Your Children That You Love Them

Carefully explain that your decision has nothing to do with them, and that your divorce isn’t their fault. Children have a tendency to blame themselves, so make sure they understand that the dissolution of your marriage doesn’t have to do with their role in your lives.

From their offices in Shelton, CT, D'Agosto & Howe LLC offer high-quality legal guidance to divorcing couples and their families. They have decades of experience and are committed to helping their clients navigate one of life’s most difficult experiences. To see a list of their legal services, visit their website now, and call (203) 712-0210 to speak to a lawyer. Follow the law firm on Facebook for more advice and regular updates.