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After the Memorial Service: Tips for Grieving the Loss of Your Spouse May 18, 2017

East Haven, New Haven County
After the Memorial Service: Tips for Grieving the Loss of Your Spouse, East Haven, Connecticut

After losing your spouse, you may be struggling to find a way forward. Planning and attending a memorial service are valuable first steps in the mourning process, but personal healing can be a lengthy and challenging journey. Your grieving experience is unique because nobody else had the same relationship with your husband or wife as you did. These tips can help guide you through this difficult time and find ways to celebrate your loved one’s life.

Allow Yourself to Experience Your Emotions

Your spouse was your lifelong partner, so you might feel as though you lost a piece of yourself. It’s natural for this feeling to continue long after the memorial service. You may also experience a wide and confusing range of emotions, from fear and anger to relief and guilt. These feelings may seem strange and sometimes contradictory, but they are all normal parts of the healing process. Don’t try to hide or alter your emotions out of concern they might be inappropriate for your situation.

memorial service East Haven CTIf you are spiritual, embrace your faith on sad days. Even if you are upset with God and left with unanswered questions, do not push away your beliefs. Denying your grief will only add to your stress.

Be Gentle With Yourself

Grief can be physically and mentally overwhelming, so give yourself a break. Lighten your workload, eat nutritious meals, and make sure you get enough rest. Seek the support of your loved ones—your friends and family care about you and may even have experienced a loss that helps them relate.

Share Your Thoughts

After celebrating your spouse’s life at the memorial service, talk openly about your grief. These conversations can help heal the feelings of loss and loneliness. Explore your memories and allow yourself to laugh and cry. Take the time to go through your spouse’s personal belongings, but don’t rush into any decisions about what to do with them.

Commemorate Special Dates

Even after you become more comfortable talking about your loss and discussing happy memories, special occasions like birthdays, holidays, and anniversaries can still be difficult. These dates often emphasize the loss of your loved one, so keep your support system close to remind yourself that you are not alone.

Create a Lasting Legacy

Whether you chose a traditional burial or cremation for your spouse, there are ways to keep their memory alive and visible. Consider planting a memorial tree or starting a charitable foundation to share your loved one’s gifts with the world.


When you lose your spouse, the directors at Clancy-Palumbo Funeral Home in East Haven, CT, are prepared to help. They’ve helped area families plan traditional funeral services for over 65 years. In addition to standard burials, they also offer a range of cremation and memorial services. Call (203) 467-2789 to speak with a funeral director. Visit their website for more information about funeral planning and grief resources.

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