Experiences with death can be hard to process, even for adults. For children, who often have no frame of reference for the event, a death or a funeral can be completely bewildering. It’s important to help your child through the experience and give them strategies to understand it. Porto Funeral Homes in East Haven, CT, suggests a simple explanation that will teach them what to expect and give them the opportunity to express their feelings.

It’s important that this conversation takes place before the funeral to give your child time to process what happened. Use simple, age-appropriate words, and give your child time to react both during and after the discussion. Make sure you’re paying attention to your child’s feelings, and comfort them appropriately. Remember that there is no “right” reaction; people grieve in different ways.

During your discussion, make sure your child knows what to expect. If the death of a loved one will mean changes to their life and routine, then explain to them what you expect to happen. Explain what they’ll see and hear during the funeral services, and help them understand what will be expected of them. Be reasonable about your expectations, offer support, and allow them to withdraw if they’re feeling overwhelmed.

Another excellent practice, and one that should continue long after the funeral, is to give your child words to express their feelings. Validate the emotions you see in them and share your own feelings. Give your child space to talk about their experiences. Listen and take their feelings into account. 

Healing is a process that takes time—and the support of loved ones. Make sure your child has access to the emotional support they need. For more advice, contact Porto Funeral Homes at (203) 467-3000 or visit them online.