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After the Funeral: What to Say & Do for a Grieving Family March 2, 2017

East Haven, New Haven County
After the Funeral: What to Say & Do for a Grieving Family, East Haven, Connecticut

Finding the right words and knowing what to do following the passing of a friend can be difficult, particularly after the funeral. If a family you are close to recently lost a loved one, help them through this challenging time with the following suggestions.

What Not to Say

Refrain from using cliches, such as “He is in a better place now,” “At least she lived until age [x],” and “I know how you feel.” These words generally fall on deaf ears, especially if you have not lost a loved one of your own.

What to Say

funeralLet the mourning family know you are there for them. Emphasize that while you may not have the right words or understand what they are going through, you are there to provide your love and support. You can also talk about your favorite memories or express how sorry you are for their loss.

What to Do

Give hugs if you do not have the words, or simply sit there with your grieving friends. Make it clear you are always around if they want to cook dinner, go for walks or to the movies, or just to hang out and talk. Your presence and willingness to listen are the best gifts you can give a grieving family. Let them know you made stew and have a lot left over if they’re hungry. Ask if they want help sorting through their loved one’s possessions. Whatever you do, do not disappear after the funeral. The mourning period is not over simply because the burial services are.

The compassionate team at Porto Funeral Homes has helped residents of the New Haven, CT, area bid farewell to loved ones for over 75 years. The family-run business provides a full suite of funeral services, including cremation services, burial services, and burial trusts, among others. Staff members do whatever they can to help grieving families create personalized funeral or memorial services that help them say goodbye. Contact Porto Funeral Homes today to learn more about funeral services. Call the East Haven location at (203) 467-3000 or visit the website. Like the funeral home on Facebook for more helpful information.

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