Finding the right words and knowing what to do following the passing of a friend can be difficult, particularly after the funeral. If a family you are close to recently lost a loved one, help them through this challenging time with the following suggestions.
What Not to Say
Refrain from using cliches, such as “He is in a better place now,” “At least she lived until age [x],” and “I know how you feel.” These words generally fall on deaf ears, especially if you have not lost a loved one of your own.
What to Say
Let the mourning family know you are there for them. Emphasize that while you may not have the right words or understand what they are going through, you are there to provide your love and support. You can also talk about your favorite memories or express how sorry you are for their loss.
What to Do
Give hugs if you do not have the words, or simply sit there with your grieving friends. Make it clear you are always around if they want to cook dinner, go for walks or to the movies, or just to hang out and talk. Your presence and willingness to listen are the best gifts you can give a grieving family. Let them know you made stew and have a lot left over if they’re hungry. Ask if they want help sorting through their loved one’s possessions. Whatever you do, do not disappear after the funeral. The mourning period is not over simply because the burial services are.
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