Dealing with death is difficult for many people, but it can be especially challenging to help children understand it. The funeral service specialists at family-run Porto Funeral Homes in East Haven, CT, recognize that it can be hard, and they have offer insights for helping kids cope with loss.

At the heart of the matter is honesty. While it is not uncommon to soothe children with gentle statements about the deceased, they often don’t actually explain death. If a child asks specifically about death or is wondering why someone suddenly disappeared, it’s best to be forthright without presenting overwhelming explanations. For example, you might say that the person was very sick or very old, and that their body got tired. Explain that while the person is no longer physically there to talk, the special relationship and love they shared will keep memories alive forever.

Some kids are curious about what happens after the funeral services are completed. Where does the deceased go? It’s a natural question, and the answer is largely dependent on the parents’ or guardians’ religious beliefs. Some faiths believe that loved ones go to heaven, while others believe in reincarnation. These concepts are generally too complex for very young kids, but older children may have their own thoughts on the matter—it doesn’t hurt to ask what they think happens after death.

It can be helpful for kids to visit a terminally ill person, although it’s essential to explain to your child what they will see. Though it may be difficult, it can also make it easier for kids to accept death if they understand the inevitability of a disease’s progression.

Some children may misbehave or get a little noisy during a funeral, so it’s best to use your best judgment in determining their attendance. It also somewhat depends on the funeral service itself. Is it going to be a lighthearted or somber affair? Let your child know what to expect.

At Porto Funeral Homes, your satisfaction is paramount. The compassionate staff provides solutions for any issues related to funeral planning, and they are happy to answer your questions. For more information on their funeral and burial services, visit the website or call (203) 467-3000.