Getting divorced is a difficult experience during which hurt feelings and rising tension can make otherwise calm people act out in unhealthy ways. While it's understandable that the occasional argument will erupt, it's extremely important to shield your children from the added stress of watching or hearing you fight. The Law Office and Mediation Center of Jeannine M. Talbot, a Connecticut divorce lawyer who focuses on helping couples dissolve their marriages amicably, urges everyone going through a divorce to concentrate on making this transition as easy for your children as possible.

The first and most basic rule is to avoid arguing or fighting in front of your children at all. Keep it behind closed doors. The more friction between you and your spouse that your children are exposed to, the more likely it is that they'll internalize anger and even wind up blaming themselves for the divorce. When exposed to the kind of angry or hurtful language that can come up during an argument, children can wind up feeling unloved, a dangerous situation from which it's very difficult to come back.

When discussing the divorce with your children, it's always important to be as honest as possible while avoiding assigning blame. As tempting as it is, you'll also want to carefully monitor what you say about your spouse when he or she is not around. Expressing negative feelings about your partner to your children will make them feel as though they have to choose a side, which can lead to behavioral and psychological problems in the future.

If a divorce is inevitable, having a divorce lawyer on your side who understands the importance of a peaceful resolution can be priceless. Visit The Law Office and Mediation Center of Jeannine M. Talbot online to learn more about her legal philosophy and range of services, or call (860) 482-9004 to discuss your case with a divorce lawyer today.