Many of us feel good when we help someone. It brings out the best in us and gives us a connection with others. It can make us feel purposeful and appreciated. It allows some of us to experience our self emotionally and still be in control. We may reach out to help others when their need is desperate or in circumstances that are more subtle. We minister to others through our giving to strangers as well as to our neighbors, friends and family. That we 'take care of our own' is the quality we are most proud of as a people. God, our Father tells us to "Love one another".

But many resist or refuse help when it is their time of need. Some would say that to accept help makes them feel weak, as if they can't handle things them self, that they fear being perceived as having failed. Others think that who they are or what they have achieved is lessened if they received help from others. Perhaps you or someone you care about has these or other concerns that keep you from allowing others to reach out or get close when it is most needed.

The truth is that little of what any of us achieve is without some form of help or support from others. In fact, our humanity thrives in helping each other, rushing to respond in moments of crisis or difficulty. Allowing our self to be the receiver when we are in need, whether we accept prayer, advice, support or things of necessity, matures each one of us, giving us a broader more realistic view of ourselves and of others. It places us where we belong, as one of God's children making our way through the difficult and often confusing and overwhelming maize of life with the help of our Father and those with whom we journey.

We have all heard that 'No man is an island', nor were we meant to be. To have full and vibrant relationships with others requires our ability and willingness to receive as well as to give. It is important for our own well being that each of us find our way to not allow our pride, issues of trust or other life experiences and personal issues to separate us from the genuine love and kindness offered by others. If you struggle with this issue you may find that individual counseling will help you heal those things that stand in your way, keeping you separated from the nurturing love of those willing to stand by you.  To learn more please call me at  my Charlotte University Area office: 704-770-7743.

M. Leslie Owens, MSW, LCSW
Psychotherapist
704-770-7743
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