Successful co-parenting ensures your child has the loving, consistent support of both partners. But in the aftermath of a separation, it might seem impossible for two exes to get along and even have a civilized a conversation, let alone work together to raise a kid. In spite of how it may feel, the experienced divorce attorneys at Coyne, Cundiff & Hillemann, PC, in Lake St. Louis, MO, stress that it’s a necessary hurdle to overcome for everybody’s benefit. 

How to Effectively Co-Parent After a Separation

1. Set Aside Your Differences

Divorce comes with intense emotions, hurt feelings, and difficult realities to adjust to. Most emerge from the process with various issues, but it's crucial to put those aside when dealing with your kids. All your recrimination toward your ex must take a backseat to the needs of your children. That means behaving civilly around your ex, communicating politely and respectfully, and keeping the focus squarely on your kids.

2. Honor Schedules & Visitations

In most divorces, either the parents or the court determines who gets custody of the child and what schedules and visitations will look like. You must honor these agreements. Show up on time to the appropriate places to pick up or drop off your kids, and state your needs for altering the schedule well in advance. Be respectful of everyone's time and demonstrate your commitment to the co-parenting process.

3. Practice Good Communication Skills

Since you and your ex no longer live under the same roof, you won't speak face to face on a regular basis. But solid communication is the key to any successful co-parenting plan. Always keep your ex in the loop about what's going on with the kids, and make an effort to be a united team for the sake of your children.

If you're facing the end of a marriage, let the family law and divorce attorneys at Coyne, Cundiff & Hillemann, PC, advocate for your rights and the best interests of your family. They’ve been proudly serving the Lake St. Louis, O’Fallon, and Wentzville areas for over 75 years and offer expert legal counsel and representation. Call (636) 561-5599 or visit them online to arrange a free consultation with a divorce attorney today.