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Finding the right words to say to a bereaved friend can be challenging. At Abriola Parkview Funeral Home, our caring team knows first-hand about the difficult place you’re in. You want to help, but you may not be sure how. Fortunately, our specialized training in grief counseling has helped us learn what to say—and what not to say. To comfort those in mourning, keep these few tips from our friendly funeral home in mind.

4 Phrases to Say & Not Say to the Bereaved: Your Local Funeral Home Explains

What to Say

1. I Am So Sorry

A simple “I’m sorry” can communicate your sorrow and sympathy as straightforwardly as possible. Sometimes, the fewest words communicate the strongest message. 

2. My Fondest Memory of Your Loved One Is…

Some people mistakenly avoid talking about a friend’s dearly departed. However, doing so can actually aid in the healing process. Reiterate how special this person was by sharing fond memories together. 

3. I Want to Help in Any Way I Can

Many people feel hesitant to funeral homeask for help, even when they need it most. Whether you help with meals or offer a shoulder to cry on, let your loved one know you’re prepared to help in any way you can. 

4. I Will Be Thinking of You & Your Loved One

Those who are grieving may understandably feel lonely. To ease such feelings, let your friend know that you will be thinking of them. If appropriate, you may also offer thoughts and prayers.

What Not to Say

1. At Least Your Loved One Lived a Fulfilling Life

Regardless of the age of the deceased, never attempt to comfort someone with an “at least” statement. Even if the individual led a long, fulfilled life, it does not mean your friend should be any less devastated.

2. Your Loved One Is in a Better Place Now

Even those who believe in heaven may not be comforted by the notion that their loved one is a “better place.” While you may genuinely want to help, taking such a positive stance may cause your friend to feel like you’re minimizing their genuine pain. 

3. Everything Happens for a Reason

Do not tell a friend that their loved one died for a reason. Regardless of their beliefs, doing so during the vulnerable stage of grief can cause further trauma.  

4. Trust Me, I Know How You Feel

Many people have lost loved ones before. However, that doesn’t equate your experience with theirs. Avoid discussing your own history and instead focus on the person who needs support at this time.

Our team from Abriola Parkview Funeral Home supports Trumbull, CT, locals throughout the difficult process of mourning. To learn more about our grief resources, visit our funeral home online. To speak with a friendly representative about funeral services, call today at (203) 373-1013.

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