All couples can benefit from seeing a relationship counselor. Although many people consider it to be a last-ditch attempt to work things out, it can serve as a preventative measure by improving communication between the two partners. Whether you and your significant other are facing a serious issue or want to enhance an already-strong relationship, meeting with a professional for the first time can be stressful. Below, Laurie Burns LCSW-R CGP, a licensed counselor in Rochester, NY, explains what you can expect during the first meeting to ease your anxiety.

What to Expect When Meeting With a Relationship Counselor

Topics You’ll Cover

You can expect to cover a broad range of topics during the first meeting with a relationship counselor, but you do not have to prepare anything in advance. The counselor will want to know why each of you is attending counseling — you may have two different reasons — and what you hope to gain by doing so.

During the first appointment, you’ll answer questions regarding the history of your relationship and your personal life, as well as the most common conflicts you face and how you address them. For example, if there is a recurring disagreement you and your spouse have, the counselor will want to know about it.

Objectives You’ll Meet

There are a few main objectives your relationship counselor will aim to achieve during the initial meeting. First, your counselor will strive to establish a safe space where both you and your partner feel comfortable discussing your thoughts and feelings regarding the relationship. Second, the counselor will grant you each the chance to explain why you think you are there and what you hope to achieve by attending regular sessions. Third, you will both share stories about your past and why you might behave the way you do so the counselor can determine the most effective way to help you and your partner.

If you want to strengthen your bond with your significant other, Laurie Burns LCSW-R CGP offers the services you need. As a relationship counselor for over two decades, she’s helped countless couples work out differences and walk away with a better understanding of each other and stronger communication skills. Visit her website for more information, or call (585) 734-6826 to schedule your first meeting.