If you’ve never attended a funeral before, it can be a little intimidating. While every funeral service or memorial will be different, they tend to have the same basic standards of etiquette and decorum. To put you at ease before attending a service, here’s some information on the proper etiquette.

Proper Etiquette for a Funeral

1. Clothing

Traditionally, black or dark grey is worn to funerals, but, with the varied nature of formality today, looking nice and put together is more important than the colors you wear. Pallbearers, or those participating in parts of the ceremony, often choose to wear black. Choose clean and simple outfits—a funeral is not a time to flaunt.

2. Behavior

When you arrive at the service, if there are no ushers, leave the first few rows free for the family to sit. If you happen to come late, do not walk down the center aisle to sit. If possible, enter from the side of the room or remain toward the back. Cellphones should be silenced or turned off and never used during the service.

3. Children

When a child’s family member or friend passes, it’s important to explain the situation to them and why they should be well-behaved. Kids often pick up on the mood of the room and how their parents are acting, but it’s always a good idea to provide a book or quiet activity if they become restless. Give children an idea of what they can expect at the service, so they are not caught off guard. They should dress in nice clothes but are not expected to wear black.

4. Recessional

At the end of the funeral service, immediate and extended family will leave the room first. Remain seated as they leave and wait for the pastor’s or service leader’s closing remarks. They will let you know the following events, whether it be the location of the gravesite or an invitation to someone’s home. Be sure to acknowledge those you know in the family to offer your condolences and friendship before leaving the service.

If you need funeral planning or memorial service assistance in the Thomasville, NC, area, trust the compassionate team from S. E. Thomas Funeral & Cremation Services. They offer everything from funeral service details to grief counseling to help you get through the loss of a loved one. Call them at (336) 475-1945 or visit them online to learn more about their services and how they can help.