You don’t have to work at a funeral home to appreciate the importance of proper funeral etiquette. When memorializing a loved one, people are expected to act and dress with a certain degree of decorum out of respect for the individual who has passed as well as those in mourning.
Funeral home directors often stress the following points:
- Attire: It’s no longer expected that you dress all in black for a funeral. That said, you should dress conservatively, avoiding any garments that could be deemed gaudy, offensive, or too casual for the occasion.
- Religion: If you’re participating in a funeral or memorial service but are not a direct family member of the person who has passed, be respectful of the family’s religious beliefs. Don’t make any comments or readings that deviate from their belief system. If you don’t feel comfortable participating due to your own beliefs, express this clearly and compassionately to the family.
- Children: A funeral home can be a stressful environment for children. While it’s understandable that you may want to give your children the opportunity to pay their respects, honestly assess their maturity level before bringing them along, or you may add to the stress of others in attendance.
- Phones: Ideally, you should leave your phone in the car or at home during the service. If this isn’t possible, keep it on silent, and don’t use it at all. If you have to check for an important call — perhaps you decided to leave your children with a friend and want to know they’re doing well — step outside the funeral home to do so.
Serving families in the Wagoner and Muskogee, OK, areas, the team at Shipman Funeral Home & Crematory and Muskogee Cremation Services will help you arrange a memorial that honors the life of your loved one. Contact them online to learn more about what they do, or call (918) 485-9525.