Social etiquette is always changing and adapting with the times, so if you haven’t been to any funeral services lately, it’s a good idea to brush up on the proper convention for this occasion. Funerals are particularly sensitive, as it’s a time to grieve lost loved ones and offer your condolences to the family while celebrating the life of the deceased. Shirley Brothers Mortuaries & Crematory has gathered the basics of funeral etiquette to help you know how to attend an Indianapolis, IN, service.

If you follow the below courtesies, you’ll be a respectful and appropriate guest at funeral services:

• Attire: While black is a common convention and can always be appropriate, other colors may be acceptable depending upon culture and religion. Attire should always be conservative in color and style. A suit and tie is best for men, while a dress or pantsuit is best for women.
• Arrival: Always give yourself plenty of time to arrive at the service, planning for possibilities such as traffic or getting lost. You’ll want to arrive no later than five minutes early to take your seat. If you get there late and the doors are closed, do not open them as you’ll interrupt the service. Just wait outside to offer your condolences after the service. Turn your phone off or leave it in the car, as well as anything else that could be a distraction.
• Seating: The first few rows are usually reserved for the closest friends and family, but don’t sit too far in the back, as that may leave the family feeling alone. Sit where seems appropriate, and if seats start to run out, you can feel comfortable offering others your seat to stand or take a seat in the back.
• Gifts: Gifts are not typically expected, but bringing funeral flowers or food for the family may be appropriate. You can also ask the family or funeral directors if there’s an organization you could donate to on the deceased’s behalf.

If in doubt, it’s always a good idea to follow the family’s lead. Funeral services vary widely based on religion, culture, and the personality of the deceased and their family. Being courteous and supportive is what matters most. If you’d like to do your own funeral pre-planning, call Shirley Brothers Mortuaries & Crematory at (317) 897-9606 for experienced and caring support. You can also see their website to compare pricing. They can help you plan everything so your family won’t be required to plan your funeral when the time comes.