Children are the most vulnerable people involved in a divorce, so it’s imperative to know how to broach the subject with them. The divorce lawyers at Ibold & O’Brien in Chardon, Ohio, have been serving Geauga and Ashtabula counties since 1980 and understand the end of a marriage affects everyone in the family. They will guide you through the divorce process and offer advice about discussing it with your children.

3 Tips for Talking With Your Kids About Divorce

1. Establish & Reaffirm a Sense of Safety

Divorce often makes children feel as if the rug has been pulled out from under them; it can upend their ideas of normalcy, routine, and stability. It's important to establish and constantly reaffirm a sense of safety during and after your conversation about your divorce. If possible, have your spouse join you when you tell your children about your decision. Let them know they are loved and still have a place to call home. Explain that while the configuration of the family will change, the feelings you and your spouse have for them will not.

2. Be Clear & Concise

Your kids don't need to know details of what led to your divorce. Providing too much information might force your children to carry the weight of adult problems. When discussing your divorce with your kids, be straightforward and brief, using language appropriate for their age.

3. Address Unanswered Questions

It's natural for children to have a lot of questions about divorce and how it will affect their lives. However, many queries go unanswered, either because they are too painful to address or kids don't know how to ask them. It's up to you to discuss these unasked questions. For instance, reassure your children that the divorce is not their fault and let them know this step is best for everyone. Provide practical information, such as whether you will move or they will have to change schools.

Ibold & O’Brien will guide you and your family through the challenges of the divorce process. To schedule a consultation with a divorce lawyer, call (440) 285-3511 or contact them online. Visit their website for more information about their practice areas, including bankruptcy, estate planning, and personal injury law. Like them on Facebook for legal tips and updates.