“The Box” A funeral director’s wife acknowledging love after loss
The truth about preparing for your celebration of life service, funeral, cremation or whatever title you want to put on it may not be as important as the other pre-planning that comes before you make the “Final” decision on what to do with your body when your called to your eternal home. For some of us we may have a spouse or children, but we all still have people in our lives who we love and want to know that they will be taken care of. That is why it’s important to take the time and make sure that if something happened to you today that tomorrow they would know what to do with paying of the bills, where all the important documents are that you kept, how you want them to handle all your affairs and so on. A few steps that help us to get prepared for the transition whenever it may happen is to have a box that someone other than you will know where to find it. When you decide how you want everything write it down and place it in the box. As I mentioned before we all have people in our lives who we love who we want to make sure they know that we loved them and cherished our time together. So, take the time to write them a letter and let them know exactly how you felt and how much you loved them. By taking these steps it helps ensure that your loved ones begin their journey of life without you a little bit easier as they learn to live a life that no longer contains the one they love. For me this is very important. Because after dealing with an illness for six years I have realized since my healing that at any given time I could be taken away from my family. I want them to know that I love them and how I want them to continue to live life to the fullest with joy and freedom to love other people after I’m gone. I know that if something happened to me or even my husband we may need or desire to have another companion in our lives. Believe it or not some people need to hear from their spouse that after they are gone it’s okay for them to love again. Write it down and let them know you want them to love again and you know you could even tell them the type of person that you would like to see them with. I always tease my husband that if I know months in advance that I would be passing this life then I would do interviews with women and decide which woman would fit him and our kids best and about three months after my passing have her introduce herself to him. I share this with you to let you know there truly is more to preparing for your service than what many will share with you. Those around you who love you need to know how you want everything handled down to the final detail as well as to know and have permission that it’s okay to love, have fun and live life without you here. The celebration service after you have transitioned into eternity is just another step for them to acknowledge the wonderful life that you lived and to show their love and appreciation for you. Don’t allow fear of death to keep you from giving life to those around you who you love.
Written By: Anita J. Shipman