Death is a part of life, but that fact doesn’t prepare you any better for an inevitable loss. As you’re processing a loved one’s death, you often have the additional worry of discussing their passing with your children. These are not easy conversations to have, and, depending on the age of the child, there may be various ways of approaching the discussion. The caring staff at Shipman Funeral Home & Crematory in Muskogee and Wagoner, OK, provide some helpful tips on how to have this very serious talk.
Finding the words may be the most difficult part of all. It’s a very emotional and sad time, but how do you put that into an understandable context for children to help them process the situation and grieve? The funeral home staff suggests you:
- Be Straightforward: This is certainly not a time to delay telling a child someone they know passed away, so keep the conversation on task. You’ll want to also discuss how they’re feeling and help them process their emotions as they begin to mourn the loss.
- Read Books About Death: When finding the words is too hard, a book about death can help get the conversation started and provide additional prompts to move the discussion forward.
- Check In Periodically: While the initial conversation won’t be easy, it also won’t be over in one sitting, as you’ll want to continue to check in on your little one’s feelings and listen to their concerns. It’s also a good opportunity to remember the deceased fondly, celebrating their time on earth and how they impacted your family’s life.
If you need to have a difficult discussion about death with a child, know approaching the topic with honesty and love will go a long way. The experienced team at Shipman Funeral Home & Crematory can assist you with all aspects of funeral planning. Call (918) 485-9525 to contact the staff at their Wagoner location, or call (918) 683-1700 for their Muskogee location. Visit them online for more information about grief support.